From what you mentioned, we gather that you do not live with the mother of the child or that you have a strained relationship with her and that you have in fact two things to manage, not one. If the mother is resisting or in fear, making it challenging or impossible for you to spend time with your daughter or says hurtful things to your daughter about you, the "problem" or issue lies with the mother in a way.
For if the child lives with her mother, she gets imprinted with the fears (and hopes) of the mother - that is the case for all children. Children are like sponges, they absorb everything coming from grownups and other children (siblings, friends). They are very aware of what is going on, even though they may not have the words or experiences to express what they are feeling or living.
Depending on their personality and sensitivity level, they will either act out or withdraw. Pay attention to changes in attitude or behaviour.
And you live in a highly processed world: food; information; entertainment. It is very easy for children to get overloaded. They are new to this world, and what they remember from spirit can clash with what they are living on this Earth, leading to confusion.
Minimizing stimuli - reading them stories instead of watching tv together; radio instead of television; teaching them how to sit and be still, listen to their inner voice. By being alone (with you first, especially when they are very young like your daughter), talking gently to them. Using a lot of the tips and advice given here, but adapting them to their age, their context, their understanding of the world.
Children will often model their behaviours or reactions on that of the parent(s). If they see you being calm, taking more time to nurture yourself as well as them, that you do less, meditate, eat well, drink plenty of water and so on, it will have a soothing effect on them. If you find yourself overreacting to everything and immersing yourself in sensory stimulation, the children will also react to that.
And if you find yourself feeling tired, unbalance, stressed or unwell (ie feeling crappy), and you know these feelings are related to the shift, chances are your daughter (and children in general) are feeling it too, perharps even more intensely than you.
Talk to her, tell her that you are not feeling quite yourself because of a change - much like the change of season, but a change that is more felt than seen (in terms that she will understand). Ask her how she is feeling. Have a dialogue with her, so she knows this is "normal", that everything is ok. Give her tips to relax, unwind and connect to nature that are suitable to her personality and tastes.
It is important to pay attention to behaviour changes, and to validate her feelings. Show her how to be in her heart. Simply tell her to place both hands on her heart, close her eyes, concentrate on her heart area and think of something that makes her happy. Ask her how it feels, and to remember how it feels. Let her know that she can go back to that feeling whenever she wants or needs to.
If you see she is struggling - her behaviour will be an indication of that, be gentle, loving, compassionate. Let her express her feelings through drawings, movement, music (a drum, singing bowl, a piano...). If you feel she needs to cry (or even scream), encourage her to do so. The key is to be a safe place for her.
- All children need their parent(s) to be a soft place to fall, a haven, a safe place. - No matter how the world is around her or even her mother, your daughter will benefit from everything you are teaching her by being a safe place.
Even when you are not around, she will use those tips. For instance shw may ask to draw, or to meditate. And she will be a teacher to her mother. It is quite possible that the mother's attitude will change thanks to what you are doing with your daughter.
In a way, your challenge (lesson) is to be the best parent you can be despite the barriers set up by the mother. It is obvious to us how you care for your daughter. Learning to persevere, to lead and teach by example. Yes, now, the mother may give you a rough time. She is in pain. She has stuff to go through, like all Earthlings on this planet. It is about giving her the healing space that she needs while assuming your own duties and obligations as a parent. By seeing how your daughter flourishes with you, it will help her heal.
Be conscious of the food that you give yourself and your daughter when you spend time with her. Avoid highly processed food. The more natural the ingredients are, the better. At her age, it is much easier to adapt to a good diet or trying new food.
Spend time with her in nature. As much as you can, let her walk barefoot in the grass or sand, let her play outside, where she is sitting on the ground. Sit under a tree. Show her how to hug a tree as indicated on this site. Show her how to respect the Earth, the plants, the animals.
Children need that connection with nature, just like adults. And tell her she can talk to the trees, the plants, the animals, even me (Mother Earth), that if there are any feelings she does not like, that she can send them to Mother Earth, either by placing her hands on the ground and say something like "help me feel happy" or "take the bad feelings away" or doing the "magician hand movements" (waving your hands) to throw the bad feelins when she is indoors.
Show her how to ground herself (with roots, like a tree, that follow her everywhere she goes).
Help her see, understand what is hers (feelings, thoughts, physical symptoms) and what comes from others (both beings and planets or "astral" like the sun). These are notions challenging to explain to adults, so putting in a 2 year old (or age-appropriate context) takes some creativity and patience. Use personal experiences to draw parallels.
The important thing is to be there for your daughter. That is the duty of all parents, to be there for their children. To see beyond the behaviour. And be patient. Adults sometimes have trouble dealing with the shift, and they have more life experiences.
Remember that when you feel something is occurring, that she probably is too. If she throws tantrums or is uncooperative, sad, scared or angry during these times, chances are she is reacting to what is going on in the only ways she knows how. Your patience will be tested. -- Parents of teenagers, keep that in mind... and hold on to your hats -- If the mother complains that your daughter is unmanageable, give her tips. Things that you have done with your daughter that work.
This is all.
We hope this helps.
